I am fortunate to work with people who are led by the principles of doing what’s right and living right by others. It is an admirable quality but it can also lead to stress for perfectionists.
Let’s take my client, Marge, for example. A few years back she filed a tax return that contained a mistake her sales tax payments. Because of this, she ended up receiving a rebate check. Later, she realized that the amount was higher than she actually paid. When she found out, it weighed heavily on her conscience. Marge didn’t want the authorities to think she was out to commit tax fraud so she amended the taxes and returned the refund.
Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is looking.
Ethics and integrity are two qualities of great leaders. These principles are necessary in business and personal life because they guide us in making the right choices. When you have high levels of integrity, remember that even when you have the best intentions, mistakes do happen. Instead of beating yourself up about the past, here are 7 ways to release the weight of error and move forward freely.
- Pay attention to what you are feeling. Your inner GPS is guiding you to a specific action. Listen to it.
- Consider your options. Take a moment to get thoughts out of your head. This may look take the form of writing in a journal or making a quick list of ideas that come to mind.
- Seek wise counsel. Get feedback from others who are knowledgeable about the challenge you are having.
- Pray for direction. Listen closely to hear the path that’s best for you.
- Follow-through when the answer settles peacefully.
- Forgive yourself for poor choices made in the past.
- Release the guilt associated with mistakes that you made in error.
Not every choice is an obvious one. If you are unclear about how to reconcile your past with the present, take a pause. Calmly think about what action you can take now that line up with best intentions. What you do from here can free up your mind from nagging thoughts, create inner peace .